Emergency & urgent support
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger of harm - this includes threats, physical assault, sexual assault and suicide - call triple zero (000) for emergency services in Australia.
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If you're feeling overwhelmed and need to speak with someone urgently, here are some 24/7 options:
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1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) - national sexual assault, domestic, family violence counselling service
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MensLine Australia (1300 78 99 78) - phone and online counselling for men
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13 Yarn (13 92 76) - a national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Straight Islander people
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Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) - for young people aged between 5 and 25, phone, text and email options are available
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Suicide Call back Service (1300 659 467) - phone and online support (including video chat) for those affected by suicide and suicidal thoughts
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Lifeline Australia (13 11 14) - crisis support and suicide prevention
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Tools & information
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Safety planning and escape bag checklist - Relationships Australia provides straightforward, comprehensive information to help you create a plan to improve your safety if want to leave a harmful relationship
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Online/digital safety planning - eSafety is a government website with advice on how to improve your online safety if you're experiencing domestic violence or online harassment
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Family Violence Law Help - a government website to help you understand more about domestic and family violence in relation to the law in Australia
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The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child - this resource is an easy to digest guide on children's rights, published by UNICEF
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Apps for separated parents - a guide from Mediation Australia on the benefits of co-parenting apps, and a break down of their top recommendations
Are you suffering from narcissism?
If you think you could have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) then it's truly commendable that you're looking for help and support. I believe everyone can reap rich rewards through maintaining a lifelong commitment to confronting our own 'demons', and working towards treating ourselves and others with as much care, respect and empathy as possible.
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Just remember, it's important not to diagnose yourself.
Narcissism can be a temporary state during challenging phases such as adolescence, major life changes or severe illness, grief, addiction or even due to the effects of certain medications.
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NPD is more of a constant personality style which has its own cycles, fluctuations and oscillations - it's not something which suddenly shows up while you're going through a difficult time.
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NPD can easily be confused (or co-occur) with other personality styles, disorders and conditions such as borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, bi-polar disorder, autism and complex PTSD.
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The first step to getting a diagnosis is to visit your doctor who may refer you to a psychiatrist or psychologist for evaluation.
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If you have NPD and you're looking for resources, try to steer clear of information which will leave you feeling shamed or hopeless (which is most of it!). I'd recommend starting with the resources below - these provide gentle encouragement and guidance to help you gradually build skills to improve your relationship with yourself and others.
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Any improvements you're able to achieve will reduce suffering for yourself and those you care about. This is powerful!
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1. Recovery FOR the Narcissist Podcast, hosted by Dr Eric Perry
2. How to Stop Being a Narcissist: Real and Proven Strategies to Change Narcissistic / Manipulative Behavior and Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships, Erik Parks